Postby Ambar » Tue Nov 10, 2009 4:17 pm
Sarvis, I gave you a TON of advice very early in the thread, from a woman's perspective even! You argue and argue til its just more fun to laugh at you, eventually I gave up .. Heck I think a few other women tried at first til you ran them off too! I'm sorry if you feel that I've not given any useful advice but after a while I just gave up. We can all offer advice til we are blue in the face or our fingers fall off from typing, but until you figure out what works for YOU, you are done. This thread has gone on long enough you should have the basics down pat but you still ask the Kindergarten questions "what does she mean when she doesn't call back" "should I make a play for her even tho I know she only wants to be friends" .. L2R!
We don't know you, we don't know these women you associate with. Just like a doctor cant diagnose an illness over the internet, we can't diagnose or help you without seeing you in action, seeing how you interact. We get one side stories from you. Hell you could be a hottie for all we know, but you could also be the guy who just gets drunk and acts like an ass every time he goes out, who knows! And before you read something more into it, I don't mean to say you need to be super hot to attract the opposite sex, it is all in attitude and how you deal with each girl, on her own merits. You can't assume every one girl wants the same thing from you. On the other hand, don't look at that hot girl and think she is off limits, 9 outta 10 chances are that most guys have had that same thought and haven't approached her.
All your experiences (or most of them) have sounded like alcohol was involved. Get outta that "I need liquid courage" thing, try it sober, heck if you NEED to go to bars, drink coke or something for a while and try it sober! This is the sort of thing I've been telling you all along, you just don't wanna hear it. You want us to tell you how to handle each and every girl you meet and .. it will not work! You have got to find what works for YOU! What works for Kifle, Ragorn, Pril, Corth, all the other guys who've posted, will not work for you. What works for Sarvis will most likely not work for them either so there we have it. I knwo the past Romeos have said all women can be treated the same, once you decide that is false you will do so much better! You can start out the same with each girl "hey my name is Sarvis, can I buy you a drink, coffee, whatever" and take it from there til you see what works for HER. Strike out, move on, think "O I shoulda done this or that differently, NEEXT ..." .. wash rinse and repeat until it pays off.
I think I will just start quoting past responses cause they are all the same!